четверг, 18 мая 2017 г.

Reckless man who 'stealths' his partner '...

Reckless man who 'stealthshis partner 'most of the timehe has sex says he 'has NO reason to wear a condom' - and isn't afraid to get STIs.

Alexandra Brodsky, and victims' charities say it must be treated as assault.

'STEALTHING' is the disturbing, non-consensual new trend that sees men secretly remove their condom during sex.

Now, an American man has anonymously spoken out about why he does it.

In an interview with Hack, Brendan* said: "It feels better with no condom on."

He admitted to stealthing partners "most of the time" he's asked to wear a condom – but added, this "isn't as often as you might think. People are pretty chilled with doing it bareback."

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Brendan says he is not afraid to catch STIs, despite choosing not to use a condom with his partners

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Brendan says he is not afraid to catch STIs, despite choosing not to use a condom with his partners Brendan is not afraid about contracting STIs. "I really don't want to get them pregnant so I definitely wouldn't be leaving a trace. As for STIs, I don't want to get them but I would run the risk."
But admitted he "definitely" doesn't get checked between every sexual encounter with a different person.
Brendan, who described himself as "not a dirty-looking guy", also explained the stealthing process: "Pull it out, take it off, put it back in. Everyone's happy."

Worryingly, most of his sexual partners haven't notice his covert actions – but he has been caught out before.

What is stealthing?
'Stealthing' is a term that describes when a man removes a condom during sex despite agreeing to wear one.Victims' charities say it must be treated as rape – and that it's a hugely under-reported problem.

"No one's ever angry but if someone asks me to put it back on I'll put it back on for sure. That's fair," he said.
According to Brendan, the woman isn't "angry" and would usually just ask him to put the contraceptive back on so "it's safer".

Brendan doesn't seem to care about violating the rights of his partner. "I just put one on [condom] and if nothing is said I take it off. I don't think it's breaking the law.

"I'd be more worried about getting an STI than getting someone pull a lawyer on me for fraud when I'm having sex and I take a condom off."

Victims' charities say stealthing must be treated as assault (Picture posed by model)

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Victims' charities say stealthing must be treated as assault (Picture posed by model)

Brendan said his controversial views are shared by most of his friends.

While Brendan appears laidback about his actions, he could face dire consequences.

Ian Kelcey, a Senior Partner in the Criminal Law team at Kelcey and Hall Solicitors, believes stealthing could potentially be classed as rape.

"If the other party made it a strict condition that they only wanted sex if it was safe, it is possible the courts could construe such activity, post-removal of the condom, as being rape," he told The Sun Online.

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"We are still waiting for a case to come to court on this point but I think that is a possibility."

Ian, who has specialised in cases involving sexual allegations, said he would "caution a man to be very careful about partaking in this activity" as it could have grave repercussions.

He added: "The other consequence is that if the woman were to catch a sexually transmitted disease it could be deemed to be a serious assault."

The CPS told The Sun Online that they could not comment on whether stealthing is classed as rape because there hasn't been a case tried here yet, so it's unclear how the law would be interpreted.

Stealthing is the disturbing, non-consensual new trend that sees men secretly remove their condom during sex


Stealthing is the disturbing, non-consensual new trend that sees men secretly remove their condom during sex

The Ministry of Justice declined to give an official statement on the issue, but said that if any case were brought it would be up to the CPS and judiciary to determine if the act was criminal.

In January, a Swiss court convicted a man of rape after he took off his condom without telling his partner.

The court concluded that the woman would have said no to sex if she knew the condom would be removed.

Katie Russell from Rape Crisis told The Sun Online: "Both the law and the Crown Prosecution Service are clear that so-called 'stealthing' is a very serious sexual offence and, depending on precise circumstances, could be prosecuted as rape.

"Anyone has the right to consent to one type of sexual activity but not another.

"If one party has received consent for sex on the basis they wear a condom and then removed the condom without the other person's knowledge or permission, consent for sex after that point is lost. Sex without consent is rape."

*Names have been changed

If you or anyone you know has been a victim of stealthing, or if you would like more information, please visit: rapecrisis.org.uk